December 14, 2008

I have the right to feel a multitude of emotions

Someone handed me the other day “The Mourner’s Bill of Right” by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D where you can learn more about it at The first three “rights” really resonate with me lately.

  1. I have the right to experience my own unique grief.
  2. I have the right to talk about my grief.
  3. I have the right to feel a multitude of emotions.

My emotions surrounding Hyacinth Bucket’s death have been varied and mixed from one moment to the next, and on many different aspects around her death. As of late, my emotions have been of anger:

I am angry that it has been 33 days today since Hyacinth’s untimely demise and I still haven’t received Hyacinth Bucket’s ashes. Everyone I talk to keeps telling me that it is an important step towards finding some closure in this mess.

I have not heard from the handler since the day he called to inform me of her death.

A friend of mine had such stopped by for a quick visit and was telling me how she had been talking to her veterinarian about the events surrounding the death of my Hyacinth. She was telling me what her veterinarian’s opinion was on my situation. According to her veterinarian, his veterinarian should have been communicating with me every step of the way with the cremation of Hyacinth Bucket.

I had explained to my friend my understanding of Hyacinth’s cremation: I heard from a third party, the mutual friend of mine and the handler that Hyacinth was not taken to his veterinarian but to her veterinarian - something about her veterinarian being closer.

Others have said that I should also receive a certificate from the veterinarian for Hyacinth’s cremation.

Right now, the only thing I truly know is that Hyacinth is gone and I don’t have her remains yet and at 33 days, I can't see too many excuses that can explain this.

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